Bullying

 

Bullying is as a persistent, deliberate attempt to hurt or humiliate someone. It can occur quite openly and be obvious to you and those around you.  More often however it has more of an insidious nature. It is carried out more subtly, leaving you to question or doubt whether or not it is really happening to you. Bullying can take place in the home, workplace, amidst family members, friends and neighbours. There are various types of bullying, but most have underlying similarities:

 

  • The individual experiences it as deliberately hurtful behaviour towards them.
  • It is repeated over a period of time.
  • The person being bullied finds it hard to defend themselves, due to a perceived imbalance of power between them and the person bullying them.

Types of Bullying

Physical e.g. kicking, hitting, pushing, shoving, intimidating behaviour or interference with personal space or property

Verbal/Psychological e.g. threats, taunts, shunning/ostracism, name-calling/verbal abuse or spreading of rumours

Racist Bullying e.g. physical, verbal, written, on-line or text abuse or ridicule based on differences of race, colour, ethnicity, nationality, culture or language

Cyber Bullying e.g. abuse of another on-line or via text message, interfering with electronic files, sharing of  images from webcams/mobile phones without permission.

Religious-based Bullying e.g. negative stereotyping, name-calling or ridiculing based on religious denomination and faith

Sexist Bullying e.g. use of sexist language or negative stereotyping based on gender

Sexual Bullying e.g. unwanted/unsolicited inappropriate physical contact or sexual innuendo

Homophobic Bullying e.g. name-calling, use of homophobic language, innuendo or negative stereotyping based on sexual orientation

Transphobic Bullying e.g. name-calling, physical threats and violence and use of transphobic language

Disability Bullying  e.g. name-calling, innuendo, negative stereotyping or excluding from activity based on disability or learning difficulties

Gifted/Talented Bullying e.g. name-calling, innuendo, ostracism or negative peer pressure based on high levels of ability or effort

Effects of Bullying:

  • Shattered self-confidence
  • Inability to express your needs
  • Difficulty in asserting yourself
  • Losing trust in others and in yourself
  • Increased self-questioning and self-doubt
  • Breakdown of Relationships
  • Violation of human rights

How can Counselling for Bullying help you?

A person who has been bullied is often left feeling powerless, worthless and afraid, through repeated emotional, verbal or physical abuse. You may wonder what you’ve done to deserve this kind of treatment and start to question yourself and your value as a person. If this is your experience at the hands of another individual it is important to tell someone and receive support.

Insight Matters offers specialised counselling to help you understand the forces at play in bullying, and to build confidence to break out of the bullying cycle, and treat any anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, or suicidal thoughts caused by bullying. You learn how to unburden yourself of the emotional pain you have experienced and gain a fresh mindset so that you can open up to learning new coping strategies to deal with your situation. You discover and implement management approaches like:

  • Assertiveness Training – to assert your rights
  • Improving coping strategies
  • Anxiety reduction
  • Help in understanding and managing any post-traumatic symptoms/memories you may be suffering
  • Validation of your experiences
  • Managing bullying in the workplace
  • Mindfulness & use of guided imagery to reduce stress
  • Relaxation techniques

Insight Matters also provides counselling and psychotherapy for those who bully others. If this is your experience you will also benefit from therapy by addressing your need to bully and harass others and the underlying reasons behind this. If you are or have been reasonably accused of bullying then you may benefit from seeking therapy.

If you are concerned that you are being bullied or harassed and you would like to talk to someone in confidence, please contact us on 01-891 0703 or email info@insightmatters.ie to arrange an initial consultation. Alternatively please fill in the online booking form and we will contact you within 24 hours.